So…I’m on a job, and I ask the home owner what he did for a living. He told me he worked for and retired from IBM. He then volunteered this statement that really struck me, he said “We’ve had a wonderful life…my wife, our kids, three cats…we’ve really been lucky.” As simple as that statement is, it’s equally unusual. You’re more likely to hear someone say some version of “Same Sh^t different day” or some other complaint about how bad things are. From time to time you may have someone tell you they’re “OK”, or “Fine”…but that’s usually about as good as it gets.
So I started to wonder how it can be that this retired gentleman could live in the same state as me in the same recession that the rest of us are in and say he’s had a “wonderful life”? I should have interviewed him but the timing didn’t seem appropriate. So, I’m gonna tell you what I think (being that you’re here reading “The Mind Of KLH”). I think this was a man who probably learned early in his life that you get out of it, what you put into it. You go to school and study hard, then graduate high enough in your class to get recruited into a great company. Once you start working you look for a potential spouse who can be a great partner and an even better parent. Get married, spend less than you earn, save that money and then buy a nice house where you can raise your children. Keep saving and send them to good schools so they can repeat the cycle.
It’s nothing complicated really, it all comes down to this…make good decisions. Carefully consider the possibilities and then make choices that will serve you well. Most importantly though is to be grateful. Even when you don’t have much, you have some..thing that you can and should be grateful for. We live in a magnetic universe, and what we focus on is drawn to us. What we focus on is what we are drawn to. It is so very important to be aware of what we think about throughout the day. Think about problems and problems will come into our home and take up residence. Think about a “wonderful life” and…
So as I’ve been working in these peoples home for the last two days I’ve observed how happy they seem to be. They eat breakfast together, sitting on the same side of the table. They never say a cross word to each other (at least not in my presence). The husband is a realtor…he says’s “it’s just to stay busy…I’m not making any money these days”. The wife tends to the flowers and helps me choose which of the decorative tiles she wants on her back-splash…and I noticed how easily she laughs at my silly jokes.
As I look at them…now eating lunch…again sitting on the same side of the table, I think I get it. They have a wonderful life because they decided…that they would have a wonderful life. Seems like a plan to me.
Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH
Love it ! And I think It’s a great plan for all of us.
xo
My cat sits on the same side of the table as I do. We have a wonderful life…though I have cat hair in my cereal. Nicely put, Ken.
This is exactly right, they “decided”. I believe that but I also think we are all blessed with different gifts. Being able to sculpt life as you want it is one of them. Some of us have it and some of us have to work a little harder for it. Many happy people are 1) extremely thankful for what they have and 2) just not as concerned with life’s tribulations the way some of us are. It’s the whole “What you resist persists” theory. If it is in your character to be so concerned (like it is in my case) it is very difficult to “let go and let God” or whatever one takes their higher power to be. I have been very lucky in my life and I am eternally thankful for all my blessings. I have, however, had a lot of pretty bad things happen to me. In the end (and I mean at the very very end) something seems to help me pull through. I panic until that point though. This year in particular has started pretty terribly for me but I learned something about myself. The reason things always seem to work out in the very end after much struggle is this is always the point where I finally just LET GO… I don’t mean give up, but this feeling comes over me where I know I’ve done all I can do. Sometimes the final result will not come from anything we can physically “do”. This is a very hard pill for me to swallow because I need to be in control. The more I fight for control though, the more I’m shown that I can only do my part and will continue to suffer unless I start letting God do His…
A most excellent comment Michelle. I do have a suggestion for you…Start with the end. Remind yourself how things have worked out in the past and know that the same is available to you always. I believe that there is a field of infinite possibility (I know how it sounds LOL) and in that field is every possible outcome. Here is the good news…we get to choose the one we want. The process may be different than we might expect but we can tap into that awesome energy at anytime. You’re really already on the right path…you just have to believe that you are. Peace!