Yes…I’ve been thinking…I do that a lot. Lately I’ve been thinking some negative thoughts, thoughts that I know don’t serve me well. I am fully aware of the power of our thoughts, but when I am just thinking those thoughts, without being aware, it’s very easy to get carried away…to a very bad place. (If you need to rewind…and read the first couple of sentences I’ll wait.)
…….So…after feeling really crappy for a while I did what I thought was prudent, I called a friend. A friend who is smart, supportive, who could understand what I was going through…but more importantly who knew that to continue thinking negatively about my situation would keep me imprisoned by that situation. It boils down to this…our reality is what we think it is.
I have heard a couple of authors that I read put it this way – “When you change what you think about, what you think about changes”. So if I (I’m gonna spill some beans here) believe that being a great guy is a liability when it comes to attracting a woman…then the universe will make appear before me, boat loads of women who want the “bad boy”. Women who go after the popular guy, the player, or God forbid the jerk. Being that I am none of the above, this situation has been very upsetting, because of course I…am a good man…just ask me. (I wish I could make that line echo….I AM A GOOD MAN…anywayzzz…)
So my very wise friend told me what I already knew, that I have to change my thoughts…that I have to think about, not what I don’t have, but what I do have. I need to think about what I want, not what I don’t want. When we operate from a position of despair, lack, victimization we tend to see all the world through that lens. The more we think about how hard things are, how bad the recession is (it sucks…oops!!), how women don’t want the good men, or how men are all dogs…the more those thoughts become a part of who we are, they become ingrained in us.
We all see the world through the filter of our experience and thought process. The reflection of the world that we see is OUR REALITY. If we want our reality to change we must change our filter, and when we do the world will appear differently. The way that we change that filter is to change our thoughts. Now, to be fair, it’s not an easy process. We didn’t become who we are instantly, nor can we change who we are instantly. We must become aware…of our thoughts. Think about that. We must notice when we are having a positive thought or a negative one. When the negative ones that don’t serve us come up, we can simply redirect that thought to one that will benefit us or maybe just make us feel a little better in the moment.
We have all heard of self fulfilling prophecies. We have all had an intuition that turned out to be true. We have had a certain feeling about a person, perhaps without adequate information, and formed a bad opinion about that person. Then we had to eat crow, when we found out we were wrong…but our thoughts made us think they were bad, bad, bad. How many of us bought a car…and then suddenly noticed how many of those cars were on the road with us? (Must have been a sale on Ford Explorers) The point is this…our thoughts shape our reality.
Here’s the thing…if we think something often enough, long enough, and intensely enough that thought will grow into a belief. That belief will inform us, and guide us. In time that belief will become our reality. My friend reminded me how important it is to pay attention to what we think about. I know this to be true…My life is exactly…no more…and no less…what I think it is…and so is yours. Think about that.
Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH
