If You Believe

It’s so easy to get overwhelmed in these uncertain times.  Record high unemployment, soaring health-care costs, oppressive gas prices, political discord, and scandal on The X-Factor… What are we supposed to do?  At the end of the day I think we all desire pretty much the same thing.  We want good health, financial security, love, and a good future for our children.  However it seems to be getting harder and harder to achieve the things that were so hard to achieve 4 or 5 years ago.  I ask again, ‘what are we supposed to do’? Setting goals is important and often even necessary.  You may want to earn more money, you may want to lose more weight, you may want a job that is more secure, or more fulfilling.  The reason so many people set goals and then fail to reach them is the gap between where they we are and where they want to be.  For a lot of people that gap might as well be a 50 ft. high steel reinforced concrete wall…”that is electrified, and a sign reading it will KILL you” (shameless political reference).   For others the gap is a red carpet, welcoming them to the Promise Land.  This is the thing, the gap is exactly what we perceive it to be.  It is this perception that makes it easy or impossible to achieve our goals. So, if we want to achieve anything, how we look at that thing is critically important.  How we look at the process to achieve is equally important.  It is a fact that the recession has us in it’s grip.  At...

Save Our Kids

So once again another young black man has been killed.  I know some of his family, I didn’t know him…but that doesn’t matter.  Apparently this young man was loved, I draw that conclusion from the outpouring of support and expressions of deep affection I saw on Facebook.  I saw pictures of a handsome young man with a brilliant smile. His name was Mikyle… I learned his name from the numerous messages saying R.I.P.  So now he is gone…one more in a long horrible list of young black men who are killed in the prime of their lives….and for what? Of course people will talk.  I’m gonna assume that at least some of what I heard is true…and it boils down to this – that young man died for nothing.  An argument or disagreement, escalated into a fight, that ended in a death. Time and time again this keeps happening…we get sad, we get mad…we say STOP THE VIOLENCE…and yet nothing changes.  Why? I think it’s clear that the problem is complex, no one thing will fix this.  However, we cannot as a society let the complexity or pervasiveness of the problem make us feel impotent against this scourge.  We cannot as a society throw in the towel or develop apathy or a short memory.  This problem persists because we let it persist.  That cannot happen any more.  One lost life affects the balance of our universe…we are all less than we could have been otherwise, every time a young person dies.  Mikyle was a child of God, and now one more of God’s children is gone…for nothing. Any day now there will...

90 Days Later

So here we are, 90 Days Later.  I set some goals, designed to change my life.  I purposely wanted to make a public declaration of my “90 Challenge” because that’s what I do for one…and the reason is I want to have accountability in my life.  Making goals  or at least the intention of achieving goals (as in my case) puts some pressure on you.  People will wonder whether you did what you said you would do.  This kind of pressure can be used to good affect…or not. Well I had several goals, and I’m here to report to you that I only accomplished one of them.  I launched my website www.klhbeats.com. It was a big one, but it was only one.  On a certain level I feel proud of myself because I know that most people don’t have the skill to do what I did.  Most people could never visualize, follow through, and build what I did.  Had it not been for my setting the goal to have it launched by July 4th, I might still be caught up in the trap of perpetual tweaking.  But the goal of having it done by a date certain, provoked me to have an end game. To be honest, on another level I’m disappointed. I felt like if I really applied myself, and focused, I really could accomplish everthing on my list…but I didn’t.  I even had my cable TV temporarily turned off, to get rid of a huge time killer.  Even that wasn’t enough.  I still managed to find ways to do things other than what I had written down...

So…I’ve been thinking

Yes…I’ve been thinking…I do that a lot.  Lately I’ve been thinking some negative thoughts, thoughts that I know don’t serve me well.  I am fully aware of the power of our thoughts, but when I am just thinking those thoughts, without being aware, it’s very easy to get carried away…to a very bad place.  (If you need to rewind…and read the first couple of sentences I’ll wait.) …….So…after feeling really crappy for a while I did what I thought was prudent, I called a friend.  A friend who is smart, supportive, who could understand what I was going through…but more importantly who knew that to continue thinking negatively about my situation would keep me imprisoned by that situation.  It boils down to this…our reality is what we think it is.  I have heard a couple of authors that I read put it this way – “When you change what you think about, what you think about changes”.  So if I (I’m gonna spill some beans here) believe that being a great guy is a liability when it comes to attracting a woman…then the universe will make appear before me, boat loads of women who want the “bad boy”.  Women who go after the popular guy, the player, or God forbid the jerk.  Being that I am none of the above, this situation has been very upsetting, because of course I…am a good man…just ask me. (I wish I could make that line echo….I AM A GOOD MAN…anywayzzz…) So my very wise friend told me what I already knew, that I have to change my thoughts…that I have to think about,...

Even When You Don’t Want To

While I was laying on the couch… in the back of my mind I knew I should write a post on this blog of mine…but the couch felt so comfortable…and comfort has a way of disabling ambition and progress.  I have these dreams and big goals…and I know fully well that I will never achieve what I want in life, if it’s up to this damn couch.  So…I decide to sit up, grab the laptop, and start writing…even though I didn’t want to. Here’s the thing, at the other side of ‘didn’t want to’ is a whole new world.  A world of accomplishment and dreams come true.  Any worthwhile goal will require of you sacrifice and discipline.  You WILL have to give up things.  You WILL have to do certain things, and stop doing others.  You WILL have to be patient and persistent.  You WILL have to say no to yourself…perhaps a lot more than you’ve been accustomed to.  But that is the price of accomplishment.  I heard someone say you must ‘give up what others have now, to have what others cannot have tomorrow’.  Now trying to one up the Jones’s is not what that is about…at least not in my mind.  It’s about being willing to not watch that really funny TV show and practice your guitar.  It about not going out with your friends so you can complete the report for your college biology class.  It about getting up off the couch to write your blog, even though you have a right to be on that couch because you worked all day. There is a price for success. ...

Time Keeps On Slipping…

Yes that’s right time does keep on slipping…Steve Miller says “Into The Future”.  I’m not sure what the future part means, but I do know about time slipping away.  This ‘slippage’ is a very big challenge when you’re trying to accomplish goals.  You can want to earn $20,000 more this year, lose 20lbs., or start a new business and it all seems good, exciting, and possible at first..  But then, time keeps on slipping, and before you now it a week has passed, a month, and then a year.  Eventually you give up on your goal, or even forgot you ever set a goal.  Yes…’time keeps on slipping’, and if you are ever to accomplish things you have got to prevent the ‘slippage’. So, how do you prevent time from slipping away?  First you have to be present, or to put it another way you have to be aware.  Be aware that you have some important goals on the table that require action.  Be aware that if you do not act that time will indeed keep slipping away.  Be aware that there is no better time than now.  If you have a goal you want to accomplish I would suggest that you commit to acting on that goal on a regular time schedule.  Some things can  and should be acted upon daily…other things may be better suited to weekly or monthly action.  The important thing is to commit the consistency.  Consistent action will prevent time from slipping away from you.  Consider this…February 2012 will come, and it will go.  The question is where will you be in relation to your goal?  If...