Fathers Matter…Too

Happy Father’s Day!  Father’s Day…Father’s.  I emphasize that, because I feel that it’s not emphasized enough.  When it comes to the family unit men are taken for granted or barely acknowledged at all.  I hate when I see mothers wishing themselves or other moms Happy Father’s Day.  A mother no matter how awesome, can NEVER be a Father.  I know a lot of women will disagree…but it’s OK…just bare with me for a moment.  Think just a little bit about Mother’s Day.  Mom’s are taken out to dinner, flower stands are on every street corner, and everybody is proclaiming that  ‘to be a Mom is the hardest job in the world‘.  I would tend to agree…but I would add to that statement.  Being a Dad is also the hardest job in the world. I am fully aware of the countless men who have failed to step up to the plate and shoulder their parenting responsibilities.  I know women get discriminated against, sexually harassed, physically abused, and paid less than they are worth.  All these things are intolerable.  Men who don’t take their responsibilities seriously put a stamp of shame on all men.  Men who mistreat women are punks, they are the bottom of the barrel, but they are not representative of the whole gender. I have written many times about my belief that we are all one, and that when we figure that out, it will erase most of the problems we humans face.  When it comes to parenting we are, or at least should be one.  We should be of one accord, one purpose, and that is to...

Father’s Day

We live in a society that expects so much from, and honors so little,  the men that father the children in our country.  Men are universally condemned for not providing for the physical needs of their children…I think…rightly so.  Men are expected to do whatever needs to be done to provide.  When the union (however temporary that union may be) between man and woman results in a pregnancy, feminists and women’s rights advocates say that “a woman has a right to choose”.  Implicit in that position, is that a man does not have a right to choose whether or not a pregnancy will lead to a child birth.  Abortions happen at the sole discretion of the pregnant woman…the man…has no say.  Bear with me…I’l get to Fathers Day, I promise. Fast forward nine months, after the woman has decided to have the child, the man, who previously had no say…is now obligated.  Whether or not he wanted a child…he is now obligated to provide for that child.  After a child is born women’s rights advocates are curiously absent.  Even if the man and woman are no longer together (some unions just don’t last) the man is legally required to provide for the new child, for at least the next 18 years….Very Interesting. I think the rules, laws, and expectations surrounding abortion, child birth, and child support are sometimes…how shall I say…questionable?  But, what is not questionable are the moral obligations of a father.  The laws written on our hearts are more clear, concise, compelling, and I think, more fair than the sometimes convoluted laws or society has jumbled together. Here’s how...