The Mind of KLH

In this day and age with the recession raging our government has to be very cautious with spending tax payer money.  Hard choices have to be made.  There is a finite amount of revenue available, so money cannot be wasted.  At least that’s how it should be.  For some misguided reason our local and state governments see fit to give taxpayer money to people who won’t go to work.  Why, you may ask?  Because they had a baby, or two, or three, or…you get the idea.  A lot of women have decided to make welfare a career choice.

Now I know that a lot of “welfare moms” and wimpy liberals will say “OOOOOOhh you don’t understand.  These women are finding themselves on hard times, and we can’t let these babies starve, and yada yada”.  To that I would reply that a lot of people these days are finding themselves on hard times, me included.  The welfare department doesn’t give me any money, nor should they. 

There are families have that 3rd and 4thgeneration welfare recipients which is an outrage.  Clearly a lot of these “women” and often times girls have made a conscious choice to use baby making as a way to pay the bills.  No….I haven’t forgotten about the “men”.  These so called men are complicit in this rip off.  Any man worth a damn, would never have children he couldn’t afford to support.  People…in this day and age we just can’t afford to pay for somebody else’s children. Welfare needs extreme reform.  But, how do we do it?  I have a couple of suggestions.

First, U.S. citizens ONLY , NOT IMMIGRANTS…can receive welfare once per lifetime, and just for 9 months.  Men who father children and don’t pay for the support of those children, will be placed into a mandatory work program.  They will work in a job that benefits the neighborhoods they live in, street cleaning, graffiti removal, landscaping public property, you get the picture.  Half of the money they earn will go to repaying the money us citizens had to pay to take care of their babies.  Next, mothers and fathers who receive welfare money will go through a mandatory training class where they will learn how to teach workshops to educate young people how to avoid pregnancies they cannot afford.  Mothers will teach young girls that because a guy says “you have a nice ass” doesn’t mean he’ll make a suitable parent.  Fathers will teach young boys that it is weak, ignorant, and unmanly to have sex when you can’t shoulder all the possible consequences of having sex.  If you get pregnant again after having already received welfare…all I can say is you better have a good job.

We have gotten to a place in our society where our standards have gotten pitifully low.  Young men and women should expect so much more for themselves.  Welfare should be an extreme choice for an utterly desparate situation.  If you can work you should be required to by law, if you have children.  Beyond that, I simply don’t want to pay for anyone elses kids.  Nobody asked me if it was OK for them to have unprotected sex…and if I would mind paying for their children.  (They probably know what the answer would be.)

We need a new day…a new way of looking at things.  Welfare as a career choice is disrespectful…it’s disrespectful to the taxpayers, and it’s disrespectful to one’s self.  I know that some people will still say I don’t understand.  They will say that birth control isn’t 100% effective…but those same people won’t admit the obvious, that abstinence is always 100% effective.  Fact….sometimes when you have sex the woman gets pregnant.  To the women I say before you get all hot and bothered, ask yourself “If I get pregnant, can I afford to pay for this baby on my own?’ Truth is, that might be your reality.  To the men I say if you don’t have a job, or if you have any other loser traits… sex is not for you.  Whatever the case may be I don’t wanna buy junior diapers.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Well…I was watching Oprah the other day interview Jay Leno, and she asked him a couple of times if he felt sorry for Conan O’Brien.  I’m sure she asked what a lot of people would have asked given the chance.  As I was watching Jay who seemed a bit uncomfortable, it hit me….ARE YOU FREAKIN’ KIDDING????

Conan got severance payout of somewhere in the area of $40 million dollars.  If he lives another 40 years, and never worked another day in his life, that’s a million a year.  I don’t feel sorry for Conan at all.  I think even the notion that anyone should feel sorry for him is absurd.  Conan is super rich, and he’ll easily get another gig that will make him even richer….how sad.

Now to be clear, I’m not mad at Conan.  To me the fact that he makes that money means that the people who pay him believe he’s worth it…and that’s all good.  But I think that we the regular folk, get caught up in this altered reality.  A mindset that is removed from what really matters.  So many people are taking sides…which one of these very rich men got the short end of the stick, is a ridiculous waste of mental energy. 

If we must feel sorry for someone…I have some suggestions:  How about the one hundred fifty thousand and counting people who have died in Haiti?  How about the thousands of children who will be orphans when the dust settles in Haiti?  How about the hundreds of thousands of people in this country who didn’t get a severance package when they were told there is no more work?  How about that man that has to make the long drive home to tell his wife and kids that they’re going to have to move into Grandma’s house because ours was foreclosed on?  How about the thousands of people who die every year because their heartless insurance companies won’t pay for that “experimental procedure” that would have saved their lives.

Now, don’t get me wrong perhaps Conan did get the short end of the stick….perhaps…but I know for a fact that most people would love to have that stick.  I wish the best for Conan, but I’m more concerned with regular folk facing REAL problems.  If we as a people collectively focus on helping each other and even more importantly helping ourselves, we’ll all benefit in a very big way.  Conan can take care of himself.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Goodness knows this is a very controversial issue….but controversy has never prevented me from diving in, so here goes.  I believe that personal liberty is a very important right that we as Americans have.  I don’t want anybody telling me what I can and can’t do.  However, I know that there are limitations on my liberty.  When what I want to do infringes on someone else’s liberty, I can’t do it.

Now I know that I can’t have a baby.  I can never know what a woman goes through when she gets pregnant.  But just a surely a woman can never know what a fetus feels.  A woman can never know what it’s like to be the man that wanted to be a father to the fetus / baby that was aborted.  Yes…. I am against abortion.  But I am not a fundamentalist freak who believes in extreme measures being perpetrated against women who have had abortions.  I’m writing now because I was watching Court TV airing the trial of Scott Roeder who ADMITS that he shot and killed Dr. Tiller, who was an abortion provider.

The shooter/killer is claiming that he was justified because he was acting in the defense of unborn babies.  This guy is nuts, he’s a hypocrite, and it’s insane that tax payer money is being spent putting on a trial for this killer.  People like this make a mockery of the whole issue.  My thing is this…there is a ton of evidence to support the claim that life begins if not at conception, then VERY shortly thereafter.

I know a lot of women will want to scream at me and say “a woman has a right to do what she wants with her body”, and I would agree.  But these women fail to acknowledge the body that is within them.  I think that a much more appropriate thing for her to exercise her rights over is whether or not to have sex.  Or, whether or not to use birth control.  A woman doesn’t HAVE TO GET PREGNANT!!!!!  Additionally a woman doesn’t HAVE TO HAVE SEX!!!!  How about self control, preparation, forethought, and descretion? 

Here’s another thought (I have a lot of them) if it’s ONLY a woman’s choice as to whether or not she has a baby, then why should a man have to pay child support?  If a woman can decide indepently to abort a pregnancy, then should she be “woman enough” to decide to pay for raising that child?  To exclude a man’s feelings and rights during pregnancy and then force obligations on him after birth is dead wrong.  Now….to be clear I think a man should pay for the upbringing of his children, but I also think to exclude him as a dis-interested and unimportant bystander when the issue of abortion comes up is grossly unfair. 

Abortion rights?  I think abortion is wrong, but I’m not willing to put women in prison for it.  I think it would be more appropriate to overturn Roe v. Wade and make it illegal.  I actually believe women are smart enough to avoid unwanted pregnancies.  It may be a little inconvenient but I know plenty of women who have succeeded.  Birth control works most of the time, and if you add a condom into the mix along with the pill, it’s actually pretty damn hard to have a baby if you don’t want to have one. 

So to all you beautiful, sexy, capable, intelligent women out there if you even MIGHT have sex, just be prepared, it really does work.  To the men, don’t be idiots…USE A RUBBER.  Have a nice day!

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

I welcome your comments.

This is a question that a lot of people have pondered, and a lot of discussion has been conducted around this topic.  But because Dr. King was such a giant of a man, I think it interesting to consider it in the political and social climate of the day…”What would he do now?”  Well…I think he would be an enthusiastic advocate for universal health care.  He would see the horrible inequity and injustice piled onto people who can least afford it.  I think Dr. King would show how absurd and immoral it is for a health care system to price life saving medical treatment out of the reach of most Americans.  Our police and fire departments are “socialized” so why not medical care?  I think that would be a question he would powerfully demand an answer for.

I think Dr. King would be proud that we have an African American as our president.  But King would not just rubber stamp everything Obama does.  I believe that King would keep the pressure on Mr. Obama to deliver on his promises.  I for one would love to see that.  Dr. KIng would point out the futility in conducting a “War On Terror”.  It is impossible to kill enough people to make them not hate us.  Dr. King showed us the magnificent power of a righteous cause, peacefully being demonstrated for all to see.  He’d remind us that when you don’t take up arms against your enemies the world is forced to see the rightness of your cause.  Yet…as Mr. Obama has said ‘a head of state can hardly be a pacifist’…I think King would agree.  But somehow Dr. King would find a way to counsel our president in the ways of gentle power.  War has it’s place, but so does love, peace, and common good.

I think Dr. King would have been sad that Michael Jackson died so young.  I think he would have told parents the importance of loving their children and supporting them and making them feel like they really matter. I think he would have told us that celebrities have as much right to privacy and intimacy and quiet as we do.

I think Dr. King would be a really powerful force helping to guide us all to our better selves.  Happy Birthday Dr. King….we sure could use you now.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Yes…I’m back, and I’m annoyed.  The other day I went to the movies to see Avatar.  It was a great film with a surprising spiritual undertone.  It was a pretty long film, close to three hours.  Anyways…I’m there enjoying the movie or at least trying to but the nit wits behind me kept kicking and bumping my chair.  As for me personally I always try to stay in my space.  I don’t want to impose on anyone else.  Unfortunately a lot of other people don’t have that kind of courtesy or self awareness.

When I’m at the movies I keep my damn feet to myself, I am not a ‘kicker’.  If I’m talking to you I won’t tap you constantly…I call these creatures ‘tappers’.  Also when I’m talking to you I won’t get within 18″ of your face.  I call people who don’t respect this don’t cross zone “space invaders”.  Even as I’m moving away ‘space invaders’ keep coming, and they’ll continue to keep coming until someone says “STOP!!!  This is my space and you can’t have it.”  It’s the same with seat kickers and tappers…they don’t have proper boundaries.

I think that as an American….actually as a human being we all have the inalienable right to EXCLUSIVE use and occupation of the three foot invisible circle around us.  That invisible circle is our Personal Space.  Unless you’re having sex or engaging in some other activity that actually requires physical contact Stay Out Of Personal Space that isn’t yours.  Perhaps it’s the invisible nature of personal space that confuses seat kickers, tappers, and space invaders.  Someone should invent ‘Personal Space Goggles’.  These goggles would detect when you are entering someone else’s personal space.  When you do an alarm would go off and indicate that you should back off…If the alarm doesn’t work perhaps a little electrical zap!

Well…maybe that’s not practical…maybe parents should just teach their kids proper manners…Ahhh…remember manners?  What about a ’Space Invader’ watch list?  Whatever the solution…something needs to be done!

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

When I opened my iGoogle page under the Heading of ‘Hot Trends’ a few of the entries had to do with hanging photos of the late actor David Carradine.  I am ashamed to say that I clicked on one of the links.  Fortunately I closed the page before I saw any pictures…my conscience got to me.  My better judgement kicked in and gave me a reality check.  I was reminded how despicable people can be. 

Because a person is, or was a celebrity there is an inclination to think they don’t have basic human rights to privacy.  So many people  assume that they have a right to know details about a celebrity’s personal life.  Let me state it clearly….WE DON’T!!!  What happened to David Carradine is tragic.  Even though he apparently did it to himself…even though there may have been some kinkiness involved, it was tragic.  Life is precious, and life lost is serious and solemn. 

For a minute I got caught up in the curiosity, and I wanted  to see what I really didn’t have a right to see.  The family of David Carradine has a right to dignity, even if David killed himself in a most undignified way.  They deserve the right to mourn his death in private.  They don’t owe us in the public anything.  Similarly when celebrities get divorced, go into rehab, get arrested, or have plastic surgery…it ain’t our business.

What we really need to do is live our own lives.  Everyone will be better off.  How willing are you to let people know about your private affairs?  I’d bet that you don’t want anybody in your business.  I bet that you want the respect for your privacy that is guaranteed to us as Americans.  Celebrities deserve the same respect.

So for whatever it’s worth…I apologize for almost looking at those pictures.  I will do better in the future…and I hope you do as well.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

I heard it in a song the other day.  I’ve heard many others say the same thing…most of those saying it were men.  It hit me that it is this kind of insanity that causes so much misunderstanding, grief and pain in the world, especially between men and women.  For some inexplicable reason it has been conditioned into young boys that they shouldn’t show emotions…at least not “soft emotions”…and you certainly shouldn’t cry.  The problem with that sort of stupidity, is that it ignores the FACT the men are human.

Humans have emotions…all kinds of emotions.  The fact that a person may not show those emotions outwardly, doesn’t mitigate the fact that those emotions exist.  Men are every bit as capable as women to feel sadness, depression, and grief…men absolutely do get their feelings hurt.  But men have been conditioned to not let their hurt show.  The problem with this is that the hurt will not be denied.  If the hurt is not expressed directly it will show up some other way.  Men usually resort to anger when they feel hurt.  Somehow we’ve been trained to believe that anger is more ‘manly’.  

So…if a man’s feelings are hurt, rather than saying that, he may scream at his woman.  He may go out and cheat on her.  He may resort to violence against her, or maybe even misplace that violence, and direct it towards some one else.  But please be clear, those hurt feelings will make themselves known. If men were more able to express their hurt feelings, that alone would greatly reduce violence against women.  In fact, it would probably reduce violence in general.  The old paradigm just doesn’t work.  Men are people too.  The sooner we all embrace that, the better of we all will be.  

We as a people need to revisit and then revise what it means to be a man.  Sure strength is a part of being a man…but gentility is too.  We as men need to reclaim our humanity…all of it.  If our feelings have been hurt, we need to be able to say that in words, soft words, not with our fists.  I am not suggesting that men are just like women, because we are not, nor will we ever be.  But to say that a grown man ain’t supposed to cry is flat out wrong.  Sometimes being a man is being able to show softness, but not being defined by that softness.  Sometimes being a man is being able to cry even when our conditioning says we shouldn’t.  

As a man you might not want to cry at a public theater watching Sex In The City,…but if you lost a loved one, or if you’re expressing love to that special one, if you feel like no one understands you…I say that you as a man have a ‘human-right’ to cry.  

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Lately there has been a lot of talk about Chris Brown and his girl friend Rihanna. I’ve seen pictures of Rihanna and it looks like Chris beat her up really bad. Unfortunately this kind of behaviour is not that uncommon. Also not uncommon is the woman going back to her abuser after he cries and grovels and begs her to come back…swearing that he will never do it again. Usually the peace is short lived and the woman gets beat again and again until she finally has the courage to leave her man or is killed by her man. Apparently Rihanna thinks Chris Brown is the exception to the rule. It has been rumored that she went back to him. It’s very sad.

Physical abuse is absolutely positively wrong. But it’s not wrong because a man shouldn’t hit a woman…although he shouldn’t. It’s wrong because a person’s safety and security are inherent rights we all have simply for being alive. Notice I said “WE ALL HAVE” these rights. What has been mostly missing from the public discussion about the Chris Brown and Rihanna story is the report that she may have hit him first. If that is indeed the case she was every bit as wrong as he was. Physical violence is always wrong. To say or imply that it’s not quite as bad when a woman hits a man is flat out stupid. Violence provokes violence. Abuse of any kind provokes more of the same. Now to be clear, I am not saying that Rihanna deserved to get beat up because she didn’t. However I am saying that Chris Brown didn’t deserve to get hit either. He had just as much right to safety and security and respect as she did.

So what’s the remedy? We need to understand that to impose violence on an innocent person is always bad. If a person gets us upset enough that we want to hit them, then we need to be strong enough to walk away. If a threat of violence persists the relationship should be ended. Men far too often are inclined to use a show or force when their words don’t get the job done. Some men’s sense of masculinity is too easily threatened and so they over react by an inappropriate show of force. The truth is, an inappropriate show of force is usually a sign of weakness. For a man to hit a woman who he is most likely bigger and stronger than is an act of utter cowardice.

However…for a woman to belittle or berate a man is proof positive that she doesn’t deserve to be with any man. For a woman to hit a man is always dead wrong. A woman should be subjected to the same punishment as men when they are violent. It is every bit as disgusting when a woman is violent against a man as it is the other way around. We’ve been conditioned to think men are stupid, weak, not so smart, and even color blind. Just look at a sitcom on TV it is almost ALWAYS that the man is a bumbling idiot and the woman has to save the day. This kind of insanity is a part of the sickness that provokes men to over react towards their women.  Men must be respected, and honored, not made fun of.

Respect should not be optional in relationships, and love will not fill in the gaps where respect is missing. Men must have an independent strength that cannot be compromised or redefined by any woman. If a woman doesn’t give a man the respect he deserves he should kick her ass to the curb with her bags and everything she came in with. Women have an absolute right to have kindness, gentility, and respect given to them. You should NEVER feel threatened or intimidated by your man…if ever you do you should be on notice. If a man is violent towards others, if he has difficulty managing his anger, if he is domineering, if he throws things around the house in anger, if he is verbally abusive consider yourself to be in danger. You should talk to him about some real ways these problems can be rectified. If he is resistant to real change in these areas you should consider leaving because a black eye is probably in your future.

Violence towards your partner is ALWAYS wrong, man or woman. Both partners should say to each other with crystal clear conviction “If you ever hit me I will leave you and NEVER come back”.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Well it was a little hard to hear, but it was indeed just like music. I just made a major renovation to my website KLH Beats.com and when I finally hit the enter button it was a beautiful sound. I will now be offering Hip Hop and R&B beats (that’s instrumental music tracks) for free…yes FREE!!!! It’s quite a move and I’m excited about it. Why??? Because I did something important to move my business and consequently my life forward.

Whenever we do something positive no matter how small on our own behalf, it confirms us. It make us know a little bit more, that we are important. It puts another block in the wall of our self esteem. When we feel better about our self, our power is enhanced. People who are powerful make this world a better place. When I say power I’m not talking about power over other people, I’m talking about personal power. Personal power is about being all WE can be. It’s about being comfortable in our own skin and in our own place in this world. People who impose their power over other people, usually feel inadequate in some way, so they in effect, leech power from weaker people to strengthen themselves.

But I digress…today I had a victory. It might not be that important to some people but that’s not the point. Personal power is about what we do for ourselves, and today I did it!!! Because I did it, I feel great. Because I feel great I’m going to do more, and as I do more to build this business of mine, I’ll feel better about me…which in turn will empower me to do greater things. Do you get it??? It’s a delicious cycle…a cycle that started with one thing…I hit the ‘Enter Button’…and it was music to my ears.

What one thing can you do today on your own behalf? One small thing I promise you will lead to another, and then another. Imagine a world filled with people with enormous personal power, all adding to the greatness of our planet. Now that…is music!!!

Please be sure to check out my new site at – www.klhbeats.com

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Let me count the wayzzzzzz!  Whew!!  Computers as great as they can be…are determined to make me go freakin’ crazy (I just know it’s a conspiracy).  As I sit here typing on my beautiful I-Mac computer, I long for the days of the Smith Corona, or a good IBM Selectric.  When those went bad you could lift up the lid and spot the problem.  When you have a problem with your computer, first you have to determine is it really a computer problem or a software problem.  Usually it’s a mutant hybrid problem which means you’re going to have to figure the problem out on your own. Or… 

You can call tech support if you hate yourself enough to deal with that torture.  The reason I say that, is tech support people  are usually good at one thing, and that is reading what is in their stupid ‘Tech Support Manual’.  This manual is designed to drive people who know a little bit about computers absolutely NUTZ!  The tech support person will start out by asking you a couple of aggravating questions like:  ”Hi, who am I speaking to?” And…”Would you please validate your address?”  It wouldn’t be so bad if you hadn’t given all that info to the robot chick who asked for it at the beginning of the damn call.  

After they’ve interviewed you they offer some suggestions that rarely solve your problem and sometimes add to your problems.  After they finish wasting your time they often will pass you along to another person or department so they can have some fun with you as well.  At this point I usually want to curse somebody out, but I know I’d get hung up on and have to start the whole happy process all over again, so instead I internalize the pain and stress.  I am certain that tech support is largely responsible for my high blood pressure.  I’m sure most of these tech support people are quite lovely.  But they would probably be more well suited reading bedtime stories to kids and not reading stupid solutions for my freaking computer crises!

Computers are like a beautiful person, that you love, but sometimes seems to get sick pleasure out of driving you out of you mind.  I get a lot done with my computer, but right now I think it wold look great if it was buried half way in the wall of my office.  How do I hate thee???  I think I need  calculus to add up the ways…but just like a beautiful woman…I ain’t giving it up. Call me a hopeless romantic.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH