The Mind of KLH

Why am I talking about this???  Because I’m wondering why everyone else is talking about it.  We Americans are so wrapped up in the lives of other people, to the detriment or our own lives.  Lil Kim a very talented Hip Hop rapper who is now a contestant on ABC’s Dancing With The Stars, and she did do some jail time.  She just might be the first convict to be on Dancing with the Stars.  A couple of years ago she got caught up in some bull#$it and guns were fired, I don’t remember if anyone was shot.  Lil Kim held to the stupid and VERY tired street law “Don’t Snitch”.  Most Hip Hop rappers follow this stupidity.  However not only did she not snitch, she lied about some facts regarding the shooting.  Consequently Lil Kim was arrested for perjury and subsequently convicted.

Now that she has done her time I sure wish people would let her be.  In fact on a broader scale I think all people who have done jail time should be allowed to build a new life.  I think it is so counter-productive to make it so difficult for ex-cons to get jobs.  If we don’t give them a chance then they will by necessity revert back to a life of crime.  Now…a child molester clearly shouldn’t be allowed to be a camp counselor for kids, but if they can’t get a job anywhere…what do you think they are  going to do for a livelihood????  I don’t know but it won’t be good.

Anyhow…I didn’t get to see Lil Kim on Dancing With The Stars, I did DVR it so I’ll catch it later.  I hope she does well.  I hope people will stop their ridiculous fascination with other people’s lives and live their own.  Personally I think watching her shake her silicone boobies is a lot more interesting.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH 

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Lately there has been a lot of talk about Chris Brown and his girl friend Rihanna. I’ve seen pictures of Rihanna and it looks like Chris beat her up really bad. Unfortunately this kind of behaviour is not that uncommon. Also not uncommon is the woman going back to her abuser after he cries and grovels and begs her to come back…swearing that he will never do it again. Usually the peace is short lived and the woman gets beat again and again until she finally has the courage to leave her man or is killed by her man. Apparently Rihanna thinks Chris Brown is the exception to the rule. It has been rumored that she went back to him. It’s very sad.

Physical abuse is absolutely positively wrong. But it’s not wrong because a man shouldn’t hit a woman…although he shouldn’t. It’s wrong because a person’s safety and security are inherent rights we all have simply for being alive. Notice I said “WE ALL HAVE” these rights. What has been mostly missing from the public discussion about the Chris Brown and Rihanna story is the report that she may have hit him first. If that is indeed the case she was every bit as wrong as he was. Physical violence is always wrong. To say or imply that it’s not quite as bad when a woman hits a man is flat out stupid. Violence provokes violence. Abuse of any kind provokes more of the same. Now to be clear, I am not saying that Rihanna deserved to get beat up because she didn’t. However I am saying that Chris Brown didn’t deserve to get hit either. He had just as much right to safety and security and respect as she did.

So what’s the remedy? We need to understand that to impose violence on an innocent person is always bad. If a person gets us upset enough that we want to hit them, then we need to be strong enough to walk away. If a threat of violence persists the relationship should be ended. Men far too often are inclined to use a show or force when their words don’t get the job done. Some men’s sense of masculinity is too easily threatened and so they over react by an inappropriate show of force. The truth is, an inappropriate show of force is usually a sign of weakness. For a man to hit a woman who he is most likely bigger and stronger than is an act of utter cowardice.

However…for a woman to belittle or berate a man is proof positive that she doesn’t deserve to be with any man. For a woman to hit a man is always dead wrong. A woman should be subjected to the same punishment as men when they are violent. It is every bit as disgusting when a woman is violent against a man as it is the other way around. We’ve been conditioned to think men are stupid, weak, not so smart, and even color blind. Just look at a sitcom on TV it is almost ALWAYS that the man is a bumbling idiot and the woman has to save the day. This kind of insanity is a part of the sickness that provokes men to over react towards their women.  Men must be respected, and honored, not made fun of.

Respect should not be optional in relationships, and love will not fill in the gaps where respect is missing. Men must have an independent strength that cannot be compromised or redefined by any woman. If a woman doesn’t give a man the respect he deserves he should kick her ass to the curb with her bags and everything she came in with. Women have an absolute right to have kindness, gentility, and respect given to them. You should NEVER feel threatened or intimidated by your man…if ever you do you should be on notice. If a man is violent towards others, if he has difficulty managing his anger, if he is domineering, if he throws things around the house in anger, if he is verbally abusive consider yourself to be in danger. You should talk to him about some real ways these problems can be rectified. If he is resistant to real change in these areas you should consider leaving because a black eye is probably in your future.

Violence towards your partner is ALWAYS wrong, man or woman. Both partners should say to each other with crystal clear conviction “If you ever hit me I will leave you and NEVER come back”.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

That is what Dr. Ben Carson’s mother told him many times. Very wise words indeed. Ben Carson was the subject of a recent TV movie called “Gifted Hands”. He is a world renown neurosurgeon. He rose up from a very poor disadvantaged life, and his mother taught him how to see what his eyes couldn’t see. His eyes saw kids making fun of him for being stupid. His eyes saw the used clothes that his mother bought for him. His eyes saw the poor neighborhood he lived in. But his mother knew there was much more to be seen if only he would look deep enough.

Perhaps one of the things that makes our success so pervasive is that it usually can’t be seen with the naked eye. As I was on my tread mill stepping away, I had a thought that visits me often and it’s this: “I still have a bit of a belly and all this walking doesn’t seem to be making a difference”. Or how about ‘I put money in the bank but it never seems to amount to much’. Or, ‘I work on this business idea but it never seems to take off’. Success requires vision that most people simply don’t have or even better yet, simply won’t access. Success requires us to believe in something that may not be quite evident. Success requires us to have faith.

Faith isn’t wishful thinking. Faith isn’t saying ‘Well ‘I’ll try my best’. Faith is being convinced before there is compelling evidence to support the belief. If there was a man outside your door with a million dollars telling you it’s all yours if you work your tail off, that’s not faith if you then go do the work. If the extra weight dropped of after one session on the tread mill that’s not faith in action. Faith is when you keep getting on the tread mill day after day, week after week, and sometimes even month after month and still don’t see results, but you keep working out. Faith is when you work tirelessly on your website, and still you don’t make a dime, but you keep on tweaking your site and studying and applying more.

Success is arrogant and conceited. Success thinks it’s better than you…and it usually is. That is until you prove it wrong. Success will have nothing to do with you until you make it submit to you by doing all the necessary work up front before you see any return for your efforts. Success will make you prove you are worthy, and if you can muster the blood, sweat, and tears to pay the price, success will kneel down at your feet, and it will be your faithful servant. First however, you gotta pay. You may wonder how much is enough? How much do I have to pay to be successful? I say you’ll know when you get there, because the heavens will open up, and rain down on you. Until then you’re not done yet.

So… you must develop the ability to see beyond where you are at. Shortsightedness is the enemy of success. I say these things knowing that I too am in the fight. However, I know that I am always one keystroke, or one phone call, or one minute away from the door being opened to me, and so I continue…even when my eyes can’t see it.

Stay Fly and Fly High
KLH

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Well it was a little hard to hear, but it was indeed just like music. I just made a major renovation to my website KLH Beats.com and when I finally hit the enter button it was a beautiful sound. I will now be offering Hip Hop and R&B beats (that’s instrumental music tracks) for free…yes FREE!!!! It’s quite a move and I’m excited about it. Why??? Because I did something important to move my business and consequently my life forward.

Whenever we do something positive no matter how small on our own behalf, it confirms us. It make us know a little bit more, that we are important. It puts another block in the wall of our self esteem. When we feel better about our self, our power is enhanced. People who are powerful make this world a better place. When I say power I’m not talking about power over other people, I’m talking about personal power. Personal power is about being all WE can be. It’s about being comfortable in our own skin and in our own place in this world. People who impose their power over other people, usually feel inadequate in some way, so they in effect, leech power from weaker people to strengthen themselves.

But I digress…today I had a victory. It might not be that important to some people but that’s not the point. Personal power is about what we do for ourselves, and today I did it!!! Because I did it, I feel great. Because I feel great I’m going to do more, and as I do more to build this business of mine, I’ll feel better about me…which in turn will empower me to do greater things. Do you get it??? It’s a delicious cycle…a cycle that started with one thing…I hit the ‘Enter Button’…and it was music to my ears.

What one thing can you do today on your own behalf? One small thing I promise you will lead to another, and then another. Imagine a world filled with people with enormous personal power, all adding to the greatness of our planet. Now that…is music!!!

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Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

We are so much smarter and more powerful than most of us give ourselves credit for. We grow and mature, we learn things and gain experiences that equip us quite well to live wonderful lives. However many times we don’t live up to our fullest potential…why? Because it’s hard. It’s hard to be successful at anything. It’s hard to live an enlightened or righteous life. It’s hard to be powerful. Sitting on the couch with a big ass bowl of vanilla ice cream slathered on top of a giant chunk of apple pie (oh my god I have a craving) is so much easier, and quite tasty.

The truth is that with success, power, and enlightenment come responsibility. In many ways doing the right thing limits your choices in ways that may be very uncomfortable. Successful people get up early and go to bed late, they work harder, and sacrifice things that average people aren’t willing to give up. Enlightened people say no to things that compromise their core values. People who live mediocre or average lives compromise so much that they often can’t even identify their core values. It’s hard to live to your fullest potential, so most people opt out on their own lives. They won’t say it but it’s true.

Ask a person what their dreams are, or what success is to them and rarely will you get a clear answer. Ask them why they are here on this planet, you probably won’t get a meaningful reply. I think the reason why people don’t want to think about being fully realized is because somewhere in their mind they know the cost is more than they’re willing to pay. So we trade down to a cheaper model. “I just want to take care of my family” or “I want to go to school” (I love that one) or “I just want to be comfortable”. Let me be clear there’s nothing wrong with these things, but they’re often ways of deferring your dreams, or even worse deluding yourself. Why? Because it’s so much easier than saying I want to run for Mayor, or open a women’s shelter, race NASCAR, or sing opera.

A lack of clarity is often just a delay tactic. As long as you don’t know, you don’t have to do anything..Hmmm. I suggest that we be real with ourselves, somewhere inside we know what’s right for us, and we’d do it if we knew we wouldn’t fail. But, unless we are willing to take that chance we will never live our lives fully. I am convinced that success in anything for anyone resides outside our comfort zone, which is why most of us would much rather sit on the couch. I got two words for you…Get up!

Stay Fly and Fly High
KLH

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Trust me on this one…I get it.  For a lot of people out there this economy is like “The Nightmare on Your Street”.  People are losing their jobs or their hours are getting cut.  People losing houses, health insurance, and most importantly self esteem.  There are people who have done incredibly thoughtless or even criminal things to drive our economy into the ground.  Those people should be held accountable…but that ain’t gonna pay your mortgage or rent next week…trust me I get it.  President Obama keeps saying that things will probably get worse before they get better.  Or that it’s going to take some time before the ‘Stimulus Plan’ begins to yield results, but that in time it will help us.  None of our politicians seem to understand that we the people have to actually survive to three or four or God forbid eight years from now.  Our car payments, rent, groceries, and kid’s college tuition will not wait for the Stimulus Plan to kick in.  Those things demand money right now…trust me…I get it.  All this is true…so now what?

Recognizing or even bitching about the rotten ass hand our elected officials have dealt us will not pay one single solitary bill for anyone.  What it will do is make us more mad, more hopeless, and still up the damn creek without a paddle, or maybe even without a canoe.  So now what?  One of the things that makes life so difficult in the tendency to live anywhere but where we are right now.  By that I mean we worry about what happened to us yesterday, the day before or even twenty years ago.  We also like to worry about tomorrow.  The problem with this is that not matter what, we can ONLY live right now…in this moment.  Right now in this moment we can make a choice, and that is where our power can be utilized.  

One of the greatest things we can do for ourselves is to be responsible for where we are in life.  When we are having a really tough time, taking responsibility for that can be extremely difficult.  It is always easier to blame someone or something else for our troubles…and I do understand that.  However there is power in responsibility…that is… the ability to respond.  So what we need to do as individuals and by extension as a nation is to take responsibility for where we are at.  Then we can make choices about how we can improve upon our situation.  Without our consent the future will indeed come…and it will go. The question is what will you and I do with the time between now and then. The choices we make today and everyday are what will shape our future.  That is the power of taking responsibilty.  If we are responsible for our difficulties, then we can also be responsible for our success.

We are creative beings of unimagined possibilities.  We cannot fathom the spectacular things we can achieve, because there really are no limits to our potential.  I believe we are made in the image of God.  and that doesn’t mean we look like God.  I think we have god-like super human capabilities.  We can summon that power, by having faith in our own greatness, and opening our minds and hearts to the infinite wisdom of the universe.  Then we can use that creative power to make whatever kind of life we want to have.  

So now what?  Let’s all resolve to face our challenges head on.  The great dragon will cower when you look it in the eye.  Challenges, even seemingly impossible ones, cannot withstand the withering offensive of a determined will to overcome them.  I said it before “Obama can’t save you”, neither can the government stimulus plan.  That’s the bad news.  The good news is that you can save yourself.  That’s what I’m gonna do.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

I just got through watching and listening to some YouTube videos.  I just got it in my head I wanted to hear some great bass players.  After about 30 minutes I just, closed my mouth and resumed breathing.  I used to play a little bass so I have some strong attraction to that instrument.  I heard Victor Wooten, some unfamiliar players, and the god the late Jaco Pastorius.  In these players I saw and heard greatness.  In math “greater than” means more than.  Clearly that’s what these men are …they are more than the average bass player.  They probably had a propensity for the instrument early on, but they certainly invested countless hours in perfecting their craft…and became more than the average player.

When I went to see Jaco in concert I knew I was in the presence of greatness.  Not in a groupie kind of way, but in an almost reverential kind of way.  Jaco was what I aspired to be.  His talent made me go home and practice my bass more.  When I saw Stanley Clarke, Stevie Wonder, Earth Wind and Fire, The Jackson Five I knew that they were “more than” me, not as people but as craftsmen.  They put in the work to develop their talent and that talent blazed from the stage.  Part of the allure of concerts back in the day was to see and hear things that I knew I couldn’t do…at least not yet.  

These days concerts are more like dance recitals, because that’s usually the only thing actually happening live.  Today’s music is filled with mediocrity.  You can go in any karaoke spot and hear singers as good as most of the singers you hear on the radio, and that’s ashamed.  Often they’re not even called singers, now they’re “artists”…and even that title overstates the case most of the time.  What about musicians?  Most young people think Chris Angel is a musician…(think about it).  Music tracks are “beats” now, and  producers are usually glorified Deejays. 

I long for the day that music comes back into the “Music Business”.  It would be great to see young boys and girls taking piano, guitar, and saxophone lessons.  I long for the day when a singer says to the producer “Why would I need Auto-Tune?”  I long for the day that singers sing because they would die if they didn’t.  When a guitar player plays because he can’t not play.  Music is the voice of God fixed to a melody and set to rhythm.  I don’t know what that is they’re playing on the radio.

For the sake of profit, music has been critically injured and is on life support.  Let’s make sure music doesn’t die.  It is imperative that music be a part of every school curriculum.  Us older folks should dust of those old 45’s and play them for our kids, and tell them our stories about the great concerts we saw and how we were affected and moved.  If we really try we can save music and oh… how really worth it that would be.

So …What is great, really?  It’s breathlessness, it’s wonder, it’s vision, it’s profound.  If any old Tom, Dick, or Mary can do it, it ain’t great.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH 

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Let me count the wayzzzzzz!  Whew!!  Computers as great as they can be…are determined to make me go freakin’ crazy (I just know it’s a conspiracy).  As I sit here typing on my beautiful I-Mac computer, I long for the days of the Smith Corona, or a good IBM Selectric.  When those went bad you could lift up the lid and spot the problem.  When you have a problem with your computer, first you have to determine is it really a computer problem or a software problem.  Usually it’s a mutant hybrid problem which means you’re going to have to figure the problem out on your own. Or… 

You can call tech support if you hate yourself enough to deal with that torture.  The reason I say that, is tech support people  are usually good at one thing, and that is reading what is in their stupid ‘Tech Support Manual’.  This manual is designed to drive people who know a little bit about computers absolutely NUTZ!  The tech support person will start out by asking you a couple of aggravating questions like:  ”Hi, who am I speaking to?” And…”Would you please validate your address?”  It wouldn’t be so bad if you hadn’t given all that info to the robot chick who asked for it at the beginning of the damn call.  

After they’ve interviewed you they offer some suggestions that rarely solve your problem and sometimes add to your problems.  After they finish wasting your time they often will pass you along to another person or department so they can have some fun with you as well.  At this point I usually want to curse somebody out, but I know I’d get hung up on and have to start the whole happy process all over again, so instead I internalize the pain and stress.  I am certain that tech support is largely responsible for my high blood pressure.  I’m sure most of these tech support people are quite lovely.  But they would probably be more well suited reading bedtime stories to kids and not reading stupid solutions for my freaking computer crises!

Computers are like a beautiful person, that you love, but sometimes seems to get sick pleasure out of driving you out of you mind.  I get a lot done with my computer, but right now I think it wold look great if it was buried half way in the wall of my office.  How do I hate thee???  I think I need  calculus to add up the ways…but just like a beautiful woman…I ain’t giving it up. Call me a hopeless romantic.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

To those of you who know me this may sound surprising…however it is true… Obama won’t save you.  Obama can’t save you.  (Side Bar – I wonder when ‘Obama’ will be in my spell check) Anyways…  I know that in these perilous times that we want someone to save the day and make everything alright.  As great as I believe Obama is…he can’t make everything alright for you or me.  Why?  Because only you can do that.  The government can build the road, but only you can drive the car down that road, to wherever you decide is the Promised Land.  

We humans are creatures of unlimited capacity for great accomplishments.  We sell ourselves short so often, however.  We think we need peoples approval, or governments programs, or Barack Obama…we don’t.  We need to get in touch with the divinity that is inside each and everyone of us.  These hard times are a gift.  They are a gift because they will unlock the creative genius of many people…maybe even you.  The challenges that we face will break many people, and that is sad.  But, these challenges will also allow us the opportunity to expand our personal power.  This is done by utilizing the creative power within us to make our circumstances better.

Now don’t get me wrong…to have a great leader in the White House is very useful in helping us to live better lives.  The thing is, that it’s not necessary…it’s beneficial…but not neccesary.  I am convinced that all we need we have within us.  I’m not saying that things aren’t hard…because they are.  I’m not saying that I never get scared…because I do.  What I am saying is that you can prevail over any and all adversities.  I’m saying that if you have faith in the greatness that is you…things will be just fine.  Maybe they will be great.  It’s not up to Obama…it’s up to you.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

To say we are living in challenging times is an understatement.  So here it is…’We are living in challenging times’.  The near collapse of our economy has affected most Americans, yours truly included.  However, with challenges come opportunities.  I know that sounds cliche, but it’s true.  This downturn in the economy is forcing us all to re-examine our choices.  Do we really need the gigantic house? Do we really need two cars? Do we really need to eat out at restaurants 5 or 6 nights a week? etc. Blindly living beyond our needs is foolish, and ultimately destructive to our financial welfare.  Greed and short sightedness are why the  economy is in such a horrible mess.  The problem has been inside of us…likewise the solution is inside of us.  (is this a long paragraph?) Anyways…

Within the problem is it’s own solution.  We the people are not at the mercy of ANYTHING that we don’t willingly submit to.  When we submit to the financial crisis, the financial crisis wields power over us.  People hear on the news how bad things are and they stop living well.  They don’t buy cars, houses, they don’t go to the theater…they shut down.  Many times we can actually have moeny and still act as if the news determines our own well being.  This…is madness.  Now I am not suggesting foolish spending.  I am simply saying that we should not allow ourselves to be hypnotized into powerlessness.

I believe that the solution to this truly bad economy is to first  realize that we are not our things.  A car or frankly the lack of a car does not define who we are as a person.  Who we are is not tangible.  Life has a way of ‘pimp slapping’ us when we need a reality check.  I think that’s what this is all about.  We forgot who we really are. What is really valuable is peace, love, security, and happiness.  All these things reside first and foremost inside of us.  When we really get in touch with that fact, then those things will manifest themselves in our outer world.  The paradigm of quick easy wealth is faulty and it was destined to fail.  The real road to long term abundance is to add value and give service.  The more you do this, the more abundance you will have in your life.  

So…our challenge in these trying times is to find ways to give value.  From an abundant and creative spirit you can create a beautiful, long lasting, rich life for yourself and your family.  So if you need or want more money in your life ask this question “What service or product can I provide that will add value to peoples lives?”  The answer to that question is the answer to your financial difficulties.  You must give to get.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH