The Mind of KLH

Yes…I’m back, and I’m annoyed.  The other day I went to the movies to see Avatar.  It was a great film with a surprising spiritual undertone.  It was a pretty long film, close to three hours.  Anyways…I’m there enjoying the movie or at least trying to but the nit wits behind me kept kicking and bumping my chair.  As for me personally I always try to stay in my space.  I don’t want to impose on anyone else.  Unfortunately a lot of other people don’t have that kind of courtesy or self awareness.

When I’m at the movies I keep my damn feet to myself, I am not a ‘kicker’.  If I’m talking to you I won’t tap you constantly…I call these creatures ‘tappers’.  Also when I’m talking to you I won’t get within 18″ of your face.  I call people who don’t respect this don’t cross zone “space invaders”.  Even as I’m moving away ‘space invaders’ keep coming, and they’ll continue to keep coming until someone says “STOP!!!  This is my space and you can’t have it.”  It’s the same with seat kickers and tappers…they don’t have proper boundaries.

I think that as an American….actually as a human being we all have the inalienable right to EXCLUSIVE use and occupation of the three foot invisible circle around us.  That invisible circle is our Personal Space.  Unless you’re having sex or engaging in some other activity that actually requires physical contact Stay Out Of Personal Space that isn’t yours.  Perhaps it’s the invisible nature of personal space that confuses seat kickers, tappers, and space invaders.  Someone should invent ‘Personal Space Goggles’.  These goggles would detect when you are entering someone else’s personal space.  When you do an alarm would go off and indicate that you should back off…If the alarm doesn’t work perhaps a little electrical zap!

Well…maybe that’s not practical…maybe parents should just teach their kids proper manners…Ahhh…remember manners?  What about a ’Space Invader’ watch list?  Whatever the solution…something needs to be done!

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

When I opened my iGoogle page under the Heading of ‘Hot Trends’ a few of the entries had to do with hanging photos of the late actor David Carradine.  I am ashamed to say that I clicked on one of the links.  Fortunately I closed the page before I saw any pictures…my conscience got to me.  My better judgement kicked in and gave me a reality check.  I was reminded how despicable people can be. 

Because a person is, or was a celebrity there is an inclination to think they don’t have basic human rights to privacy.  So many people  assume that they have a right to know details about a celebrity’s personal life.  Let me state it clearly….WE DON’T!!!  What happened to David Carradine is tragic.  Even though he apparently did it to himself…even though there may have been some kinkiness involved, it was tragic.  Life is precious, and life lost is serious and solemn. 

For a minute I got caught up in the curiosity, and I wanted  to see what I really didn’t have a right to see.  The family of David Carradine has a right to dignity, even if David killed himself in a most undignified way.  They deserve the right to mourn his death in private.  They don’t owe us in the public anything.  Similarly when celebrities get divorced, go into rehab, get arrested, or have plastic surgery…it ain’t our business.

What we really need to do is live our own lives.  Everyone will be better off.  How willing are you to let people know about your private affairs?  I’d bet that you don’t want anybody in your business.  I bet that you want the respect for your privacy that is guaranteed to us as Americans.  Celebrities deserve the same respect.

So for whatever it’s worth…I apologize for almost looking at those pictures.  I will do better in the future…and I hope you do as well.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

Hello out there bloggies!!  I am back after a long hibernation.  I had gotten a comment on one of my posts, and I went back and read the post.  I must say I was impressed (pardon me while I kiss myself).  Anyways…I wanted to write today as a way of getting back on the horse.  It is so easy to justify not trying because we have been away for a while.  This is foolishness.  It is never too late to pick up where you left off, when it comes to your dreams, and most other things in life.  

So you stopped going to the gym, you stopped dieting, you stopped putting money in the bank, you stopped telling your wife you love her…today is the day that you can start anew.  The rest of your life is still in play.  You still are at the wheel.  You can decide to let your life, your dreams, your family relationships remain stagnant.  Or, you can decide to take one small action today that will improve things.  It will lift your spirit, and inspire even more effort.

Creation is an ongoing living breathing process.  It ebbs and flows, it comes and it goes, it stops and starts…do you get it?  Inactivity is only a small part of the picture…that is if you want it to be.  I say all this because I often times struggle with consistency…but I am who I am.  Sometimes I walk away, but I am back…won’t you join me?  What have you put down?  Right now or certainly before the end of the day take a small action that moves your life closer to where you want it to be.  As you do that also be sure to be grateful for the process.

Stay Fly and Fly High
KLH

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I believe that intention is one of the most important differences between a very successful person and an average person.  I have on a number of occasions asked successful people “What’s the secret to your success?”  Inevitable they will reply “Hard work”.  While I’m sure they do indeed work hard, I know plenty of other people who work hard, but don’t have a ‘summer home’ on the beach in Rhode Island.  Clearly there is more involved than hard work.  I think it’s intention, that is the intention behind the hard work.  Successful people intend certain results when they work hard.  When Oprah works hard she intends to have more at the end of the week than $25 and hour plus overtime.  When Steve Jobs or Bill Gates work hard they intend to make a lot of money, and they usually do.

It is so easy to get caught up in our every day routine, and we often don’t think about what our intention is or the repercussions of those intentions.  A lot of people say they would like to be successful, but they fail to think about what really is necessary to achieve that success.  The work needed to bring home $750 a week is not the same kind of work needed to bring home $7500 per week.  You may work the same number of hours, you may even work harder than someone making ten times more than you, but if it’s not the ‘right kind’ of work you’ll never make a lot of money.  So what do you do to make money?

First you must set your intentions on what you want.  Wishful thinking is not the same as intention.  There is certainty behind intention.  There is faith behind intention, there is conviction as well.  So if you want to make $$7500 a week, you must fully intend to make it.  This intention will lead you to ask yourself some questions.  The first question will probably be “What can I do to make $7500 a week?”  ”How can I get the necessary training?” Or, “How can I meet the right people?”  When you ask enough of the right questions, and then get the right answers, you will have a road map to the fulfillment of your goal.  All you have to do now is break your goal down into small steps that you can accomplish in one day.  Commit to yourself that you will take at least one of these steps everyday and in time you will find yourself looking right in the face all you every wanted.  

It is critical that you always know what it is you’re trying to do with each and every step.  When you know clearly what the intention is behind your efforts, you can evaluate whether those efforts are effective or not.  If they are not, then make an adjustment, and keep on adjusting until you see the desired results.  I know this sounds very simplistic, but that is why many people don’t act.  They believe the key to success has to be difficult or complicated, or even mystical.  Success is simple…yes you have to work hard, but you must have the appropriate intention to guide your efforts.  Then tweak until you hit the target.  It’s not easy…but it is simple.  I believe you have it in you, to accomplish whatever you REALLY want to…so go get it!!!

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

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I heard it in a song the other day.  I’ve heard many others say the same thing…most of those saying it were men.  It hit me that it is this kind of insanity that causes so much misunderstanding, grief and pain in the world, especially between men and women.  For some inexplicable reason it has been conditioned into young boys that they shouldn’t show emotions…at least not “soft emotions”…and you certainly shouldn’t cry.  The problem with that sort of stupidity, is that it ignores the FACT the men are human.

Humans have emotions…all kinds of emotions.  The fact that a person may not show those emotions outwardly, doesn’t mitigate the fact that those emotions exist.  Men are every bit as capable as women to feel sadness, depression, and grief…men absolutely do get their feelings hurt.  But men have been conditioned to not let their hurt show.  The problem with this is that the hurt will not be denied.  If the hurt is not expressed directly it will show up some other way.  Men usually resort to anger when they feel hurt.  Somehow we’ve been trained to believe that anger is more ‘manly’.  

So…if a man’s feelings are hurt, rather than saying that, he may scream at his woman.  He may go out and cheat on her.  He may resort to violence against her, or maybe even misplace that violence, and direct it towards some one else.  But please be clear, those hurt feelings will make themselves known. If men were more able to express their hurt feelings, that alone would greatly reduce violence against women.  In fact, it would probably reduce violence in general.  The old paradigm just doesn’t work.  Men are people too.  The sooner we all embrace that, the better of we all will be.  

We as a people need to revisit and then revise what it means to be a man.  Sure strength is a part of being a man…but gentility is too.  We as men need to reclaim our humanity…all of it.  If our feelings have been hurt, we need to be able to say that in words, soft words, not with our fists.  I am not suggesting that men are just like women, because we are not, nor will we ever be.  But to say that a grown man ain’t supposed to cry is flat out wrong.  Sometimes being a man is being able to show softness, but not being defined by that softness.  Sometimes being a man is being able to cry even when our conditioning says we shouldn’t.  

As a man you might not want to cry at a public theater watching Sex In The City,…but if you lost a loved one, or if you’re expressing love to that special one, if you feel like no one understands you…I say that you as a man have a ‘human-right’ to cry.  

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

…then no one else will.  Regarding success in anything, I think this statement is a fundamental truth.  I believe that success is compliant, it is malleable, it is plastic.  Success will take the form of whatever we truly believe.  If you believe you are a person who can only earn $15.00 an hour, and maybe if you work really hard and go to school (I always love that one) then the universe will submit to that vision.  People very rarely make more than they believe they can make.  If you believe that $150.00 an hour is what you should make then the universe in the same way will comply.  Most of us have a very strong tendency to be defined by where we are right now.  It is a very exceptional person that can see beyond their present circumstances, what ever they are.  Successful people typically only see themselves as being successful.  Conversely low wage earners usually cannot really see themselves making a lot of money.  They may fantasize about it, but they don’t really see themselves in a much better place than they are currently.

It is a staple of the Positive Thinking world that ‘If you can conceive it and believe it then you can achieve it’.  It’s very simplistic I know, but it’s also very true.  It’s so simple in fact, that most people dismiss it as silly.  Let me break it down.  Obviously for you to achieve anything first you must conceive it in your mind, that’s easy.  Belief is much harder.  Belief is not simply saying ‘Oh yeah, I believe I can make a million dollars’.  Belief is a thought held in your mind that compels you into action or inaction.  If you believe that car speeding toward you is not going to stop, you will be compelled to get the hell out of the way.  Similarly if you truly believe you are going to make a million dollars you’re going to formulate a plan and execute that plan.  You are going to get the necessary education you need.  You are going to get up early and work late when your friends are out having fun.  You are going to sacrifice things that other people have now, in order to have what others people will not be able to have later. True belief is a motivator.

If you really believe you will be successful in your marriage, business, or child rearing you will make choices that support that belief.  You may ask ‘How do I get that belief?’  I think it starts with a simple truth, that you are capable, and you are worthy.  You may not currently possess the skills necessary to make a lot of money or be a great parent, or piano player, and that’s OK.  You must know however, that you are capable of acquiring those skills.  Great skill is very rarely present instantly.  Most of the times skill is developed over time, and often a great deal of time.  Developing skill is a matter of a series of choices.  Turn off the TV, sign up for a class, read a book, do a push up, walk around the block, make a phone call, practice your instrument.  These are choices anybody can make.  Successful people make the right choices often, and unsuccessful people make the wrong choices often.  If you want more for yourself, it all starts with making an effective choice.  Anybody can do that.

As far as being worthy…it’s really rather basic…you are worthy because you are here.  You as you are, represent a spectacular crowning achievement of creative intelligence.  The raw materials of which you are made, are no different than that of Bill Gates, Micheal Jordan, Micheal Jackson, Mother Teresa, or Oprah.  We are all a blank canvas, and we are all given a wonderful selection of paints and brushes.  It is up to you and me what we do with them.  There is nothing wrong with living an average life, and if that’s what you want then you can paint that picture for yourself.  It’s really up to you.  However I believe that most people who live average lives do so out of fear or lack of imagination.

I think most of us are afraid of looking silly, being told no, not fitting in, feeling inadequate.  So we find a comfort zone we dig in and plant ourselves there.  Then we teach our children to do the same, because we don’t want them to be hurt.  It’s hard to feel inadequate when all you do are things that are easy for you.  Most people will do just about anything to avoid discomfort.  Fear of the unknown will make people stay in jobs they hate, and relationships that sometimes put them in grave physical danger.  The need for familiarity can literally be a killer.

I am here to tell you this…you are capable, and you are worthy.  Suspend your disbelief and act as if this were true.  Small choices you can make right now, over time can eventually make your life truly remarkable.    I am not saying that great wealth is the path for everyone, because it isn’t.  I know everyone doesn’t want to be a rock star, nor should everyone.  But I am convinced that each and everyone of you can live a wonderful, abundant, happy, and fulfilling life.  You will be on that path when you believe you can.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

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Why am I talking about this???  Because I’m wondering why everyone else is talking about it.  We Americans are so wrapped up in the lives of other people, to the detriment or our own lives.  Lil Kim a very talented Hip Hop rapper who is now a contestant on ABC’s Dancing With The Stars, and she did do some jail time.  She just might be the first convict to be on Dancing with the Stars.  A couple of years ago she got caught up in some bull#$it and guns were fired, I don’t remember if anyone was shot.  Lil Kim held to the stupid and VERY tired street law “Don’t Snitch”.  Most Hip Hop rappers follow this stupidity.  However not only did she not snitch, she lied about some facts regarding the shooting.  Consequently Lil Kim was arrested for perjury and subsequently convicted.

Now that she has done her time I sure wish people would let her be.  In fact on a broader scale I think all people who have done jail time should be allowed to build a new life.  I think it is so counter-productive to make it so difficult for ex-cons to get jobs.  If we don’t give them a chance then they will by necessity revert back to a life of crime.  Now…a child molester clearly shouldn’t be allowed to be a camp counselor for kids, but if they can’t get a job anywhere…what do you think they are  going to do for a livelihood????  I don’t know but it won’t be good.

Anyhow…I didn’t get to see Lil Kim on Dancing With The Stars, I did DVR it so I’ll catch it later.  I hope she does well.  I hope people will stop their ridiculous fascination with other people’s lives and live their own.  Personally I think watching her shake her silicone boobies is a lot more interesting.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH 

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Lately there has been a lot of talk about Chris Brown and his girl friend Rihanna. I’ve seen pictures of Rihanna and it looks like Chris beat her up really bad. Unfortunately this kind of behaviour is not that uncommon. Also not uncommon is the woman going back to her abuser after he cries and grovels and begs her to come back…swearing that he will never do it again. Usually the peace is short lived and the woman gets beat again and again until she finally has the courage to leave her man or is killed by her man. Apparently Rihanna thinks Chris Brown is the exception to the rule. It has been rumored that she went back to him. It’s very sad.

Physical abuse is absolutely positively wrong. But it’s not wrong because a man shouldn’t hit a woman…although he shouldn’t. It’s wrong because a person’s safety and security are inherent rights we all have simply for being alive. Notice I said “WE ALL HAVE” these rights. What has been mostly missing from the public discussion about the Chris Brown and Rihanna story is the report that she may have hit him first. If that is indeed the case she was every bit as wrong as he was. Physical violence is always wrong. To say or imply that it’s not quite as bad when a woman hits a man is flat out stupid. Violence provokes violence. Abuse of any kind provokes more of the same. Now to be clear, I am not saying that Rihanna deserved to get beat up because she didn’t. However I am saying that Chris Brown didn’t deserve to get hit either. He had just as much right to safety and security and respect as she did.

So what’s the remedy? We need to understand that to impose violence on an innocent person is always bad. If a person gets us upset enough that we want to hit them, then we need to be strong enough to walk away. If a threat of violence persists the relationship should be ended. Men far too often are inclined to use a show or force when their words don’t get the job done. Some men’s sense of masculinity is too easily threatened and so they over react by an inappropriate show of force. The truth is, an inappropriate show of force is usually a sign of weakness. For a man to hit a woman who he is most likely bigger and stronger than is an act of utter cowardice.

However…for a woman to belittle or berate a man is proof positive that she doesn’t deserve to be with any man. For a woman to hit a man is always dead wrong. A woman should be subjected to the same punishment as men when they are violent. It is every bit as disgusting when a woman is violent against a man as it is the other way around. We’ve been conditioned to think men are stupid, weak, not so smart, and even color blind. Just look at a sitcom on TV it is almost ALWAYS that the man is a bumbling idiot and the woman has to save the day. This kind of insanity is a part of the sickness that provokes men to over react towards their women.  Men must be respected, and honored, not made fun of.

Respect should not be optional in relationships, and love will not fill in the gaps where respect is missing. Men must have an independent strength that cannot be compromised or redefined by any woman. If a woman doesn’t give a man the respect he deserves he should kick her ass to the curb with her bags and everything she came in with. Women have an absolute right to have kindness, gentility, and respect given to them. You should NEVER feel threatened or intimidated by your man…if ever you do you should be on notice. If a man is violent towards others, if he has difficulty managing his anger, if he is domineering, if he throws things around the house in anger, if he is verbally abusive consider yourself to be in danger. You should talk to him about some real ways these problems can be rectified. If he is resistant to real change in these areas you should consider leaving because a black eye is probably in your future.

Violence towards your partner is ALWAYS wrong, man or woman. Both partners should say to each other with crystal clear conviction “If you ever hit me I will leave you and NEVER come back”.

Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH

That is what Dr. Ben Carson’s mother told him many times. Very wise words indeed. Ben Carson was the subject of a recent TV movie called “Gifted Hands”. He is a world renown neurosurgeon. He rose up from a very poor disadvantaged life, and his mother taught him how to see what his eyes couldn’t see. His eyes saw kids making fun of him for being stupid. His eyes saw the used clothes that his mother bought for him. His eyes saw the poor neighborhood he lived in. But his mother knew there was much more to be seen if only he would look deep enough.

Perhaps one of the things that makes our success so pervasive is that it usually can’t be seen with the naked eye. As I was on my tread mill stepping away, I had a thought that visits me often and it’s this: “I still have a bit of a belly and all this walking doesn’t seem to be making a difference”. Or how about ‘I put money in the bank but it never seems to amount to much’. Or, ‘I work on this business idea but it never seems to take off’. Success requires vision that most people simply don’t have or even better yet, simply won’t access. Success requires us to believe in something that may not be quite evident. Success requires us to have faith.

Faith isn’t wishful thinking. Faith isn’t saying ‘Well ‘I’ll try my best’. Faith is being convinced before there is compelling evidence to support the belief. If there was a man outside your door with a million dollars telling you it’s all yours if you work your tail off, that’s not faith if you then go do the work. If the extra weight dropped of after one session on the tread mill that’s not faith in action. Faith is when you keep getting on the tread mill day after day, week after week, and sometimes even month after month and still don’t see results, but you keep working out. Faith is when you work tirelessly on your website, and still you don’t make a dime, but you keep on tweaking your site and studying and applying more.

Success is arrogant and conceited. Success thinks it’s better than you…and it usually is. That is until you prove it wrong. Success will have nothing to do with you until you make it submit to you by doing all the necessary work up front before you see any return for your efforts. Success will make you prove you are worthy, and if you can muster the blood, sweat, and tears to pay the price, success will kneel down at your feet, and it will be your faithful servant. First however, you gotta pay. You may wonder how much is enough? How much do I have to pay to be successful? I say you’ll know when you get there, because the heavens will open up, and rain down on you. Until then you’re not done yet.

So… you must develop the ability to see beyond where you are at. Shortsightedness is the enemy of success. I say these things knowing that I too am in the fight. However, I know that I am always one keystroke, or one phone call, or one minute away from the door being opened to me, and so I continue…even when my eyes can’t see it.

Stay Fly and Fly High
KLH

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Well it was a little hard to hear, but it was indeed just like music. I just made a major renovation to my website KLH Beats.com and when I finally hit the enter button it was a beautiful sound. I will now be offering Hip Hop and R&B beats (that’s instrumental music tracks) for free…yes FREE!!!! It’s quite a move and I’m excited about it. Why??? Because I did something important to move my business and consequently my life forward.

Whenever we do something positive no matter how small on our own behalf, it confirms us. It make us know a little bit more, that we are important. It puts another block in the wall of our self esteem. When we feel better about our self, our power is enhanced. People who are powerful make this world a better place. When I say power I’m not talking about power over other people, I’m talking about personal power. Personal power is about being all WE can be. It’s about being comfortable in our own skin and in our own place in this world. People who impose their power over other people, usually feel inadequate in some way, so they in effect, leech power from weaker people to strengthen themselves.

But I digress…today I had a victory. It might not be that important to some people but that’s not the point. Personal power is about what we do for ourselves, and today I did it!!! Because I did it, I feel great. Because I feel great I’m going to do more, and as I do more to build this business of mine, I’ll feel better about me…which in turn will empower me to do greater things. Do you get it??? It’s a delicious cycle…a cycle that started with one thing…I hit the ‘Enter Button’…and it was music to my ears.

What one thing can you do today on your own behalf? One small thing I promise you will lead to another, and then another. Imagine a world filled with people with enormous personal power, all adding to the greatness of our planet. Now that…is music!!!

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Stay Fly and Fly High!
KLH