Sometimes It’s Just So Hard

We are so much smarter and more powerful than most of us give ourselves credit for. We grow and mature, we learn things and gain experiences that equip us quite well to live wonderful lives. However many times we don’t live up to our fullest potential…why? Because it’s hard. It’s hard to be successful at anything. It’s hard to live an enlightened or righteous life. It’s hard to be powerful. Sitting on the couch with a big ass bowl of vanilla ice cream slathered on top of a giant chunk of apple pie (oh my god I have a craving) is so much easier, and quite tasty. The truth is that with success, power, and enlightenment come responsibility. In many ways doing the right thing limits your choices in ways that may be very uncomfortable. Successful people get up early and go to bed late, they work harder, and sacrifice things that average people aren’t willing to give up. Enlightened people say no to things that compromise their core values. People who live mediocre or average lives compromise so much that they often can’t even identify their core values. It’s hard to live to your fullest potential, so most people opt out on their own lives. They won’t say it but it’s true. Ask a person what their dreams are, or what success is to them and rarely will you get a clear answer. Ask them why they are here on this planet, you probably won’t get a meaningful reply. I think the reason why people don’t want to think about being fully realized is because somewhere in their mind...

For Me As Much As You

To say we are living in challenging times is an understatement.  So here it is…’We are living in challenging times’.  The near collapse of our economy has affected most Americans, yours truly included.  However, with challenges come opportunities.  I know that sounds cliche, but it’s true.  This downturn in the economy is forcing us all to re-examine our choices.  Do we really need the gigantic house? Do we really need two cars? Do we really need to eat out at restaurants 5 or 6 nights a week? etc. Blindly living beyond our needs is foolish, and ultimately destructive to our financial welfare.  Greed and short sightedness are why the  economy is in such a horrible mess.  The problem has been inside of us…likewise the solution is inside of us.  (is this a long paragraph?) Anyways… Within the problem is it’s own solution.  We the people are not at the mercy of ANYTHING that we don’t willingly submit to.  When we submit to the financial crisis, the financial crisis wields power over us.  People hear on the news how bad things are and they stop living well.  They don’t buy cars, houses, they don’t go to the theater…they shut down.  Many times we can actually have moeny and still act as if the news determines our own well being.  This…is madness.  Now I am not suggesting foolish spending.  I am simply saying that we should not allow ourselves to be hypnotized into powerlessness. I believe that the solution to this truly bad economy is to first  realize that we are not our things.  A car or frankly the lack of...

When life hands you a lemon…

It REALLY does suck, so you have a right to put on that great big sour-puss. I believe in the power of positive thinking, I think the “Secret” is really great stuff. However, I think it’s totally unreasonable to expect anyone to simply “make lemonade”. We are built (quite awesomely I might add) to feel a full range of emotions… sadness and grief among them. The problem is not feeling sad it is becoming immobilized by your sadness. Someone recently asked me “Why do crappy things happen to good people?”. First of all I think the question is incomplete. Bad things also happen to bad people. Even though it is possible to ‘attract’ certain things into our lives, many things simply happen to who ever was there. A hurricane is not selective, nor is a lightning bolt, or tsunami. Sometimes difficulty comes to us as a result of certain things we’ve done. If you don’t pay your bills you get phone calls. If you don’t respond to those phone calls they come and take your stuff…’cause and affect’. If you eat lousy food you may get fat. If you ignore your weight issue it may lead to more serious health conditions like heart disease or diabetes, ‘Cause…and…Affect’. Now I realize that these answers to the question may not be satisfying, but the simple truth is bad things happen to everyone. A more interesting question may be “Why do tragedies happen at all?”. Or “Why does God let tragedies happen?”. I believe that the reason is this…Tragedies and all difficulties give us an opportunity. We human beings are made in...